Sunday, 14 April 2013

Day 11717 before my death

What man can you show me who places any value on his time, who reckons the worth of each day, who understands that he is dying daily? For we are mistaken when we look forward to death; the major portion of death has already passed, Whatever years be behind us are in death's hands. 

-  Seneca

Motivation is a subject of many psychological studies and we are fortunate for the internet to connect us to all the great thinkers and scientists who study our nature and publish their findings. TED is just one stage where one can find abundance of information where ideas are shared freely with the rest of us.

Seneca was introduced to me through the reading of Tim Ferris' works and watching the many interviews with him available on YouTube. He often not only quotes Seneca, but suggests that stoicism is the single philosophy that would benefit any business person.

Late Steve Jobs mentioned death on occasion as an example of the ultimate thing which pales every other problem in comparison. In his 2005 Stanford speech he worded his mindset which allowed him to focus on the things that were important in his life by asking the question: "If today were to be the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do?"

Most people are not like Steve Jobs - driven, ambitious, productive and so on. The majority of us struggle with our nature. As Dan Ariely points out in the talk about self control, nature has equipped us with a survival mechanism of storing fat for later and eating as much as we can now as soon as we see food. It served us well thousands of years ago in Africa, but these days when we are literally clicks away from a freshly cooked meal, if uncontrolled, can lead us into a very serious health problem.

In the same talk he described his experience of battling hepatitis C which in the long run, if uncured, could lead to his liver failing and ultimately death. But that could have been a distant event, counted in decades, not even years. Thing is, that without treatment, the risk was near 100%. He was lucky enough to be included in a clinical trial of a new drug, and for 18 months he injected the medicine himself three times a week. The bad thing was that for sixteen hours after the injection he would endure really bad side effects - nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, etc. Under normal circumstances, one might procrastinate with administering the drug - why would anyone want to suffer for one and a half years for saving ones liver 30 years down the line. You could even calculate that you may be dead of something else by then anyway. Dan found a way to stick to the programme by associating the uncomfortable side effects of taking a medication with the pleasure of watching movies. He loves them, so he made a deal with himself that he would only watch them on injection days, but also would ALWAYS indulge in the activity on those days.

Death is a distant result. We may fear going on a plane, because it is today, and the fear is visceral, but we don't fear some undefined death because we don't really know when or how it would come. The same goes for our goals. You may want to build a new business from scratch, but since you've never done it, it seems like a very daunting task. How can one change their life when the goal is fuzzy, distant and uncertain?

Temporal Motivation Theory is a result of a composition of theories that look at why we procrastinate and put off the important, but often distant goals and spend time on the short term pleasures. The scientists who study it, observed that we don't weigh the reward or punishment of our activities or the results of those in the same manner if there is a long gap between now and the future results. It appears that our brains are not objective and will make the huge pain of losing a liver in some distant future much smaller than the relatively meaningless discomfort of medicine side effects right now. On the flip side, if we are striving to reach a lofty goal, but it will take us two years to get there, it is easier to choose any leisure activity in the now and get a small reward but with an immediate effect.

The trick then seems to be finding a way or ways to A - remove temptations for the pleasures of now and B - motivate us to DO the things that are important so that the time is not lost. There are many tools to do that and often it has more to do with defining what are the things that we waste time on and how to choose which things to do in order to make progress. Temptations are down to the person - for one it could be Facebook, for another it could be YouTube, yet some other could be compulsive at cleaning the house. What Tim Ferris suggests that it may be down to fear and the paralysis of choice. Fear is taken care of the alliance with the Assumption Assassin. You give the list of doubts to him and he helps you with his objectivity. Then there is choosing what to do, and Tim suggests to limit oneself to one, most important thing per day. The one thing that will make your day meaningful and move the quest forward in the biggest possible way.

Introducing Death, the way Seneca would see it. It does not judge what you did, just takes the day and walks off. You can feel its stinging cold on your face. Fear grips you to the depth of your very soul as it comes near. And it comes nearer every day. It is down to us to recognize whether our day was filled with meaning. The idea of handing our day over to her and weighing the meaning of it in our hands as we go to bed brings the usually distant thought of death right to the current moment. And limiting ourselves to one task per day allows us to have faith in our ability to perform and avoid overwhelm which leads to procrastination. More often than not, the promise of doing just one thing, leads us into other tasks by inertia which now being on our side allows us to do more. That is irrelevant though. We can die another day. Death comes to us and takes her tax, but we keep our accomplishment, our pride, and progress.

While we are postponing, life speeds by. Nothing, Lucilius, is ours, except time. We were entrusted by nature with the ownership of this single thing, so fleeting and slippery that anyone who will can oust us from possession. What fools these mortals be! They allow the cheapest and most useless things, which can easily be replaced, to be charged in the reckoning, after they have acquired them; but they never regard themselves as in debt when they have received some of that precious commodity, - time! And yet time is the one loan which even a grateful recipient cannot repay. 

Sunday, 24 March 2013

4am


It's four am. I ought to be sleeping. In a few hours time I will walk to work. Somehow I got myself out of bed and here I am redoing the mould for the nth time. My eyes are wet, my heart wants to pop but my will is strong. I will not give in

Thursday, 24 May 2012

Gary Connery is the first person to jump off 2400ft and land without a parachute

Gary Connery from the UK has done the impossible. He has landed safely on the ground after jumping off a helicopter. See the video and prepare some padding on the floor for your jaw to land safely as well :D


And another one with a nice view from above:

Just live the damn life!

Sunday, 11 March 2012

Why you will fail to have a great career - video

If you fuss, and twist and turn, and and suffer, and are trying to figure out why you're going nowhere, do watch this video and reflect upon yourself


Sunday, 27 March 2011

Just Do It

Often times productivity gurus or the ones selling us our dreams tell us to visualize the goal and then plan out the steps to follow. It's all great when I know what to do, but if I'd never done something I will get myself into a never ending internal debate on what to do and how to do it. More and more I find that the only solution to this issue is to start doing with some sort of even a vague idea for the end goal and learn as I go.

Tuesday, 18 January 2011

Thoughts on hard work, success, focus on money and video of Tool's Lateralus (with lyrics)

Recently I have gotten into trouble at my full time job. I'd lost some motivation, started coming in late and viewed non work related internet sites at work. Many visits were to this blog, to the community site and others. 

My boss whom I hold in high regard due to his fairness to his employees was disappointed and I chose to receive a slap rather than fight it out. Took a final warning and offered to come in half hour early for a year to make up for the roughly three months of 5-15 minutes lateness. And of course no internet.

Immediately after the meeting my mood slumped (show me a person that wouldn't be feeling down after such an obvious failure) and I reluctantly started to work very hard to rebuild my lost reputation. 

The thing that I have noticed is that when faced with a task that was new, or difficult, or boring, I had this urge to default to eating, opening internet and generally fidgeting.

It made me think and the nasty conclusion came to me that it is true what I feared the most, that I am simply lazy and need to push myself to do the work. When I did though, a lot of work got DONE and I reluctantly started to regain some of my good mood. Even though I forced myself to do the work, the results made me feel better.

I still don't want to be a push-over and still would like to work for myself, however I understood that this will have to be one of the tools in my arsenal in order to achieve anything, regardless whether this is whilst working for someone else or (maybe especially) for myself.

This slide created by Richard St. John lists "push" as one of the secrets to success as quoted by many successful people.

The bad mood at work and working hard made me tired and perhaps lazy at home and I didn't do anything for my own projects for a week. I was a bit depressed and felt like a complete failure. Hardly a good way to motivate myself.

Before I go into any more details on motivation, I feel I need to address money matters.

Wanting to be rich is vague, so I don't. A lot of gurus say to follow one's passion and the money would come - perhaps; but subconsciously suppressing my value and not wanting to receive money as it might put me in a bad light is simply defeating the goal isn't it? 

In the past, when I was a kid and then a teenager, raised only by my mom in very limited conditions, we looked at people of means and thought that they take advantage of others to make money. mind you, I was only 9 when communism fell in Poland, so this wasn't totally without merit. There were, however many people who took the opportunity and started not only legal but ethical businesses. The point I'm driving to is that I must have felt that I was worth very little in financial terms and that I don't deserve(or my self image didn't allow me?) to be worth more.

Finally the band Tool popped into my mind again with a piece of lyrics from the song Lateralus:

Over-thinking, over-analyzing separates the body from the mind
Perhaps I think too much? Or is it my strength? Here's the song, enjoy:




Tuesday, 11 January 2011

Definition of hard work

This relates to the previous post.

When working, the feeling of hard work is to push myself into doing even when I want to turn away and default to the easy stuff.

I can do it all day but that is hard work - and I think this defines it best for me.

Thursday, 6 January 2011

Competence

When I'm at work and I'm stuck I eat.

I believe this has something to do with dopamine. Both feeling of competence and eating.

The goal is to not substitute competence with an illusion of it.

Be aware of it. There are many things that would give me a dopamine boost: eating, watching vids on youtube, making up ideas based on assumptions.

The goal is to complete tasks. Don't stop at a hard task. push through it.

edit: competence or maybe laziness - going for an easy fix?

Tuesday, 28 December 2010

Plus1living.org is down!

I've just got notice from my host: justhost, that they are suspending my account due to too much usage of their CPU. I'm using a shared hosting service and this makes all my websites inoperable now.


Fantastic. Dealing with it though.

Saturday, 11 December 2010

Quest 7 is under way over at plus1living.org

I have decided on a quest, and will be writing about it over at my Quest journal over at Plus1living.org

Friday, 10 December 2010

Commitment

I have an idea for something to do. I don't know if this will be profitable nor I know how to test this idea. The only thing I can do is DO it.

Potentially it is very low risk with about £20 investment in money, but more in time. It has potential without testing because it involves becoming an affiliate of products that already sell. 

The thing that is I'm not settled with is the part of this idea which has me creating a YouTube channel specifically for the niche I have in mind that could pick up subjects from forum threads. This is to bring traffic to the e-store.

What I am anxious about is that I need to commit to a month or two of creating those vids without any guarantee. Which means that if I'm not right, this could be wasted time.

I could just make one video, but I'm worried that:
  • I really need momentum that only a series of vids can bring
  • I could lose momentum after one vid and not follow through even if the one is successful
On the other hand when I think of the time that had passed in which I had deliberated what to do, a month seems like nothing. 

Therefore I'd like to commit to this project:
  • spend a month making the vids - three months worth of weekly postings
  • after that build the e-store and promote the vids on forums
  • potentially bring my own products to the mix
  • write about this project on plus1living.org to help grow that community in the same time.
Time to plan these things in. I have everything to start really.


Thursday, 9 December 2010

Metrics ideas

When there are metrics and I know which direction I want the figures to go, and I have direct influence over the growth of these figures, then they do improve. Here are some metrics I believe I need to track and therefore would have a chance to improve upon:

Time - what I spend my time on generally

Total Time spent on Quests and % of time spent on each quest

Time spent on doing vs research vs brainstorming - %

Tasks scheduled vs tasks done

% of completion of missions and quests.

Found one time tracking plugin for google calendar: Time & Activity Report for Google Calendar. It works if I use keywords in the google calendar tasks, like Quest1, Quest2 etc 

Monday, 6 December 2010

Why Intelligent People Fail

"I'm not intelligent enough" may be a common excuse for many people that prevents them from going for their dreams, but perhaps this may well be your greatest asset as it is outlined in this article below.

I have found it by chance today at http://www.acceleratingfuture.com and added my comments below

Why Intelligent People Fail
Content from Sternberg, R. (1994). In search of the human mind. New York: Harcourt Brace.

1. Lack of motivation. A talent is irrelevant if a person is not motivated to use it. Motivation may be external (for example, social approval) or internal (satisfaction from a job well-done, for instance). External sources tend to be transient, while internal sources tend to produce more consistent performance.

2. Lack of impulse control. Habitual impulsiveness gets in the way of optimal performance. Some people do not bring their full intellectual resources to bear on a problem but go with the first solution that pops into their heads.

3. Lack of perserverance and perseveration. Some people give up too easily, while others are unable to stop even when the quest will clearly be fruitless.

4. Using the wrong abilities. People may not be using the right abilities for the tasks in which they are engaged.

5. Inability to translate thought into action. Some people seem buried in thought. They have good ideas but rarely seem able to do anything about them.

6. Lack of product orientation. Some people seem more concerned about the process than the result of activity.

7. Inability to complete tasks. For some people nothing ever draws to a close. Perhaps it’s fear of what they would do next or fear of becoming hopelessly enmeshed in detail.

8. Failure to initiate. Still others are unwilling or unable to initiate a project. It may be indecision or fear of commitment.

9. Fear of failure. People may not reach peak performance because they avoid the really important challenges in life.

10. Procrastination. Some people are unable to act without pressure. They may also look for little things to do in order to put off the big ones.

11. Misattribution of blame. Some people always blame themselves for even the slightest mishap. Some always blame others.

12. Excessive self-pity. Some people spend more time feeling sorry for themselves than expending the effort necessary to overcome the problem.

13. Excessive dependency. Some people expect others to do for them what they ought to be doing themselves.

14. Wallowing in personal difficulties. Some people let their personal difficulties interfere grossly with their work. During the course of life, one can expect some real joys and some real sorrows. Maintaining a proper perspective is often difficult.

15. Distractibility and lack of concentration. Even some very intelligent people have very short attention spans.

16. Spreading oneself too think or too thick. Undertaking too many activities may result in none being completed on time. Undertaking too few can also result in missed opportunities and reduced levels of accomplishment.

17. Inability to delay gratification. Some people reward themselves and are rewarded by others for finishing small tasks, while avoiding bigger tasks that would earn them larger rewards.

18. Inability to see the forest for the trees. Some people become obsessed with details and are either unwilling or unable to see or deal with the larger picture in the projects they undertake.

19. Lack of balance between critical, analytical thinking and creative, synthetic thinking. It is important for people to learn what kind of thinking is expected of them in each situation.

20. Too little or too much self-confidence. Lack of self-confidence can gnaw away at a person’s ability to get things done and become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Conversely, individuals with too much self-confidence may not know when to admit they are wrong or in need of self-improvement.

At any given point in my life I have been, was or am guilty of each one of these points. This article may well serve as a good reminder and a basis for further game development.

Sunday, 5 December 2010

Dan Ariely - rational irrational decisions

Scientist Dan Ariely discusses our decision making process and presents certain irrationalities in it. It is worth watching because it touches on the subject of manipulation of our decision making process - what can be done to prevent being manipulated or what can we do to manipulate others (game mechanics anyone?)

Tuesday, 30 November 2010

A brain hemorrhage that will positively influence your perception of your place in the world

Are you happy, right here, right now, or do you keep thinking about your past, your future, your business, your worries, you life.

This is not a video about changing your life because you would one day die. Neither it's a scientific look at the mechanics of a stroke.

The revelation of the true differences between our two brain hemispheres that you will find here and how it is presented makes this video worth your precious time.



Tuesday, 23 November 2010

Another dopamine injection!

Have just finished writing the descriptive version of the plus1living game intro. The full pdf with the beta version will be available next Wednesday.

Friday, 19 November 2010

17 hours over three weeks

One of the projects I've been working on has taken me so far only 17 hours (less than that if we subtract all the time wasters - one day this will be my next task - to streamline my morning work) over a period of nearly three weeks.

This brings me to a conclusion that it's not that these things don't take a lot of time, but the work isn't condensed, therefore in reality it drags out into weeks or even months. 

Another conclusion is that this is all new to me, a learning curve exists. I take time to read a book on the subject I'm working on (like positioning).

Lastly there are doubts and fears that will hold me back. These are probably the biggest culprits to me procrastinating.

The exercise I'm doing now is creating tons of anxiety which I'm successfully mitigating with the use of the ego Shield and the Assumption Assassin, but until I finish with it, I probably won't have much rest.

What I hope to get out of it is not a working business (the exercise is in product design and marketing), but the lessons in conquering my own fears, assumptions and unlocking myself (I must keep reminding myself of this...).

This is my second full project I intend to bring to fruition after the photo competition. What I hope to learn is a better understanding of product creation from choosing a target market first >>> then creating a product for it. I usually went the other way round.

Thursday, 18 November 2010

Multitasking vs singletasking

I can't multi-task, I keep trying, but it just doesn't work for me.

When I multi-task, I can't concentrate properly and fidget. I end up multitasking every time when: I hadn't planned my tasks ahead and when tasks are put on my desk in front of me against my will.

If, on the other hand I decide in advance what I ought to be doing in time free from outside input (or at least reduced input), then time disappears and I'm in the zone (or flow). It only happens when I'm doing one thing only.

Therefore for me at least, the challenge is not in concentrating, but in planning ahead single tasks and allowing time for them.

What I do these days is plan my mornings (outside input free zone), and try to limit the 2 - 2.5h sessions to one to three related tasks max. This way I have a feeling that I know what I'm doing, I know where to start, and when my job is done with full accountability.

Saturday, 13 November 2010

"The world is all perception anyway" - sounds familiar?

This line comes from a short marketing book - "22 Immutable Laws of Marketing" and in full it reads: 
"Keep in mind that the world is all perception anyway, and the only thing that counts in marketing is the customer's perception"
 There must be something in this sentence if we agree with this genius who said:
"Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one"
 For me at this particular time it is something that helps me stop worrying about any of my marketing projects. I worry, because in the back of my mind some pressure to make money (to free myself from full time work and be independent from one person telling me what to do) seems to creep in from time to time.

The key (perhaps - since I've never produced anything yet) is to create something of value and test my worries within the advertising copy itself, by acknowledging certain points that may turn potential buyer off. According to the book, candor is usually well received by people. I can see it in one to one encounters with other people, especially when an argument is brewing. In a potentially explosive situation, it's better to give the other person some space by agreeing to own weaknesses. 

There's another great book, not a marketing book, but one that speaks about interpersonal relations. It was written in 1934 and is as valid today as it was then: Dale Carnegie's - "How to win friends and influence people"

That's it for now, I've emptied my brains

Wednesday, 10 November 2010

I get a dopamine rush each time I have an idea

I will feel good every time I have an idea. I'm smiling now because not only I had an idea, but realised that the idea came in the middle of proper (I hope) research. Which means that I can without worry allow time for research and be sure that I will still be getting my drug :D